How to Create a Good Behavior Chart
March 11th, 2010 - Category: Charts
A good behavior chart can sometimes make all the difference in helping your child develop good habits and encouraging them to continue doing so. Of course it is not the end all be all and other methods of positive reinforcement can also be effective. However, if done correctly, it can be very effective and fun for the whole family, especially for the parent that begins to see the positive improvement in his/her child’s behavior. Here are some steps to take in developing a good behavior chart for your family.
1. Create a Plan for Your Behavior Chart
You should first think about the types of behaviors that you would consider good and the ones that you would consider bad. Outline the good behaviors that you want your children to implement. It’s also important to outline the bad behaviors that you would like to see changed in your child.
Be sure to consider the age of the child when coming up with this behavior outline. A younger child needs more positive reinforcement than anything so it might be appropriate to pick just a few good behaviors that you can reward them for. Older children like teenagers might have both good and bad behaviors outlined.
2. Determine the Rewards for Good Behavior
Once you’ve established the behaviors that you want to see and don’t want to see, come up with a points system or rewards system where the child will be rewarded for good behaviors. Again, for the older children, you might establish a point “withdrawal” system for bad behavior. This will give incentive for the child to engage in the good behaviors and refrain from the bad.
This is a main focus of MyJobChart.com. With our online chore chart, you can assign points for each chore. After the child accomplishes the task, they check it off and the points for that chore are added to their total. Then they can redeem rewards from the points they earn. This is the idea of rewarding children for good behavior. Whether it’s for accomplishing chores or displaying good behavior (which sometimes can be one in the same), rewarding children for doing good is always pertinent.
3. Create the Behavior Chart
You need to decide how you are going to keep track of your child’s good behavior. Whether it is a printable chart, a whiteboard in the hallway, or an online system like myjochart.com, it’s important to choose a system that will be easy for you and is most effective for you and your families needs. If you are looking for some good ideas on different types of chore/behavior charts, this is a very useful post from somewhatsimple.com.
4. Discuss the Behavior Chart With Your Child
It is essential that both you and your child know the stipulations of the plan. The child needs to know the rewards and the punishments for doing good and bad things. Make the discussion a pleasant one. Maybe take your child to eat at his/her favorite restaurant and bring the chart with you to explain to him there (if you’re using myjobchart, bring the laptop.
Most children, when confronted with an opportunity to get a reward, are eager to try it out. They are excited to start accumulating points so they can redeem them for things they really like. Take advantage of this initial eagerness by showing your excitement as well and making it a fun time for the whole family. Give them a challenge such as, the first to get to 30 points get’s to take a friend and go with Mom to get ice cream.
5. Be Consistent
Finally, don’t allow the new system to be a “one and done” deal. Many parents find that the initial eagerness of kids to do chores or change behavior is short lived. When the going gets tough, it’s easy to slack off and ignore the chart. Make sure that it becomes a part of your daily routine. Missing even one day can be detrimental because after one day, the next day is easier to miss and the next is even easier until it is not being used at all.
This is all on you as the parent to make sure that the chart is successful. If you get bored with it you can rest assured that your child will discard it even faster. Stay enthused, keep encouraging, and keep rewarding. By following these simple steps, you should be able to create a successful behavior modification chart that works for your family. Try it out and let us know what happens. Leave your feedback with the community and gain additional ideas from their responses.
Leave a Comment