January 30th, 2013 - Category: My Job Chart
I absolutely love the sticky notes feature on MyJobChart. It is so unique and not even possible with other chore charts. It’s wonderful to be able to personalize a quick message of encouragement or love to each of my boys. They love writing me back and I even received a message from my son scolding me by saying that I “hadn’t written him in a month!”
They usually tell me instantly when they’ve written me a message and they wait with excitement for me to read it; but there are other times on busy mornings when they are already off to school and it’s a nice surprise when I get the email alert that I have a message from them. It truly is a great way to connect to each other!
January 29th, 2013 - Category: Chores
Are you constantly nagging your kids to finish their chores? Excuse me, reminding your kids to do their chores? And then when they do their chores, they are either so slow at it, or so terrible at it, that you wonder why you even try? Let’s look at chores from a kids point of view to see if we can solve the problem.
Chores are Boring
When was the last time you were excited about folding the laundry, or emptying out the dishwasher? Even as adults, we can agree that chores are boring.
There Is No Satisfaction in Doing Chores
Even if there is a slight hint of satisfaction at a job well done when the floor is mopped and clean, the idea of having dinner in another hour and food being spilled all over it is quite a damper. Chores never seem to say done. It always has to be washed again, made again, folded again, put up again, or cleaned again. Hard to find the satisfaction in that.
There are Other Fun Things To Do
If it’s a choice between video games or riding bikes, your child may ask, “With who?” But if you give them a choice of dusting the blinds or football at the part, they’re on their way already. Of course there are things that are more fun than yucky, dirty, chores that their parents make them do.
As much as we would like our kids to do chores for the sake of duty or responsibility, that just isn’t realistic. Kids do not see the big picture and they don’t have the same moral structure as adults do. They aren’t going to be able to look at a job, realize that it’s for the good of the family if the house gets vacuumed before lunch, and not only vacuum the living room but the den as well, just because company might come over.
So how do you tip the scales and have them do their chores even though they are boring, repetitive, and there are many thing that they would rather be doing instead? You pay them!
As adults we don’t like to work for free either. If you reward your child for doing their chores, you have a much greater chance that the chores will get done. And not just done, but done well, and in the time frame specified.
MyJobChart.com makes it easy to reward your children for doing their chores. Each job has appointed points and points can be redeemed as you specify. Make chores rewarding and you’ll see them getting done.
January 29th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
I recently read the book entitled, “The Demise of Guys” and was totally shocked at the statistics reinforcing what I instinctively already knew in my head. As the author put it, “guys are flaming out”. Crashing and burning. Biting the dust.
Well, I for one, am not letting my guys ages 15, 10, 8 and almost 6 “flame out”. Nope… over my dead body is that going to happen.
These guys are growing up in a world that would have no problem if they just completely wasted all the potential they have wrapped up inside of them. Just chewed them up and spit them out. These guys need a man that has been down the road a little further than they have been, to help lead the way and educate them about all the pitfalls out there. That is what a real man does right?
So why are guys going down in flames? Well, there are a number of contributing factors but the two biggest reasons fit into the same category: technology. Specifically, video games and online pornography.
The average young person will spend 10,000 hours gaming by age 21. What? With so many boys running around now with a gaming device in their front pocket, I’m not really that surprised. Every time there is a spare minute, out comes the video game and the time wasting begins. The author put this in context when he stated that it takes the average college student only half that time – 4,800 hours – to earn a bachelor’s degree. Let’s see here… a college degree or hours of mind numbing gaming? Unfortunately, many guys are choosing the latter to their own demise. I’m not bashing the occasional virtual adventure on a winter day, but 10,000 hours? Come on.
The pornography business is picking up speed at a staggering rate and destroying guys left and right as it barrels down the tracks. One in three boys is now considered a “heavy” porn user, viewing nearly two hours of porn every week. Really? Seriously? Worldwide, pornography is almost a 100 billion dollar industry. This filth is peddled to anyone that will take a look, with the hope that they will take another look and yet another until they are stuck in an addictive cycle that destroys their ability to have normal interactions with others, especially those of the opposite sex.
Well, as disheartening as these statistics may be… take courage, I have a few simple solutions to consider:
First, boys need more to do. They need to be given more responsibility earlier on in life. How about some jobs around the house for heavens sake? It’s hard to game or get in trouble on the internet while you have a lawn mower or a paintbrush in your hand! Have them get off the couch or come out of their room, where they are more than likely gaming in seclusion, and do something productive. They might cuss you under their breath when they are younger but I believe they will praise your name later in life. Shoot, maybe even sincerely thank you face to face! Wouldn’t that be nice? The men that have my respect are real men that know how to work hard.
Secondly, boys need some goals. A clear vision of what they could or should be doing with their time. If they aren’t gaming so much or looking at porn, that leaves a lot of time to do something worthwhile. So sit down with your son, nephew, friend, whoever, and help open their eyes to the many other meaningful things that they could be doing with their time. Read good books, learn how to play an instrument or take on a new language. Get interested in a hobby like hunting or fishing or enroll them in some other organized sport. Maybe it’s weight lifting or running or mountain biking. Help them set some financial goals and teach them how to make good financial decisions. Help them understand that good things come to those that wait. Maybe it’s saving up for the car they might be dreaming of when they get into High School. As they set some goals and then make the effort to achieve those goals they will have an increased sense of self worth. Not some lame, fake, and fleeting self worth that comes from achieving another level on a video game or being momentarily aroused by yet another pornographic image.
You know what’s going to happen if we can keep them out of this technology trap? They are going to do better in school, have better social skills, be more self-motivated, learn how to work and make good money decisions. All in all, they are going to be more pleasant to be around. Bonus!
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying to go on complete and total technology lock down. Don’t freak out and pile up the iPhones and start a bon-fire or anything. These little gadgets are totally amazing if used for the right purposes. We just need to make sure that these guys that we are raising are given some guidance so they aren’t the ones that get run over by this technological train barreling down the tracks.
The demise of guys? Well, for my 4 guys it’s going to have to be over my dead body.
Gregg Murset is the Founder of MyJobChart.
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January 22nd, 2013 - Category: Charts
How do you keep track of chores at your house? Do you have a paper that you have to print out every week with updates and changes? Or maybe it is a big poster on the wall with magnets or clothespins or word strips that get lost under the couch? Maybe it’s one with stickers, and the stickers always get pulled off or you forget to go buy more? Here’s another one, maybe it’s in chalk or dry erase board, and every time you walk by you have to fix the scuff that someone accidently wiped off? How many hours have you spent just making and managing your chore charts?
If you’ve always had a hard time sticking with a system, there is a better solution. Have you ever considered an online chore chart? Think about it. In our fast paced, instant gratification, tech savvy world, how better to get your children to be motivated about doing their chores?
Build and Manage With Ease
No more hours spent finding all of those pictures to put on your chart or using rulers to make the tables just right. No need to change the whole format of your chart just to add another job. MyJobChart.com makes it easy to build and manage your child’s chores online. Sometimes it’s just a matter of communicating exactly what you expect to your children, and we make that easy. With the touch of a button you can add specific and general chores. You can also set up personal hygiene objectives, homework and reading desires, and even behavior goals.
Simple to Keep Track Of
Keep track of completed jobs, points earned, savings, gifts, and rewards. And there’s no need to feel tied to the computer to make it happen. MyJobChart.com can even send you an email or a text when your child’s chores are complete or when they have cashed in their points.
Easy Follow Through
I don’t know how many times our previous systems didn’t work because as the parent, I had a hard time following through with the payment. Either I didn’t have enough time to get the change I needed to pay everyone, or we didn’t keep good enough track of what each child had saved over time. Well, with MyJobChart.com, each child can keep their savings in their own bank account, and when they make purchases online, a text will be sent to you so you know how much money was taken out of your bank account. There couldn’t be anything simpler. No more counting quarters!
If you need a new chore chart, why not give us a try? We’ll take the chore out of your chore charts and get you back in control of your home management.
January 15th, 2013 - Category: Kids and Responsibility
How many times have you looked around your messy house, only to see your kids watching TV, so you thrown up your hands in frustration and decide to have a family meeting? How many times have you come away from the meeting with a desire to make a change but it only lasts for about 3 days, and then everyone is back into their old routines again?
It is time to succeed! It is time to win the Battle of the Chores! Make this the year where everyone’s ideas about chores are changed.
Many times it’s the parents that need to change their thinking about chores too. Maybe you resent your parents for making you do chores. Maybe you want your kids to have a better childhood than you did. Maybe you feel guilty for making one child clean up after another child. Whatever is holding you back, realize that you are hurting your child more than you are helping them by letting them get out of their chores.
Just like we send our children off to school to prepare them for a job when they are adults, having them help out around the house now, prepares them to maintain a home when they are adults. Chores are just another life skill. You are showing them more love by helping them be more responsible around the house.
It’s always easier and faster to just do the job yourself, but remember the short term goal is to get the house clean, the long term goal is to teach your child how to work and be responsible. Start young and you will have less arguing from them as they grow older.
If it’s too late and bad habits are already formed, take baby steps. Plan on taking the next year to slowly add more chores and responsibility. Start this month with having them help with the dinner dishes. Next month add a bigger Saturday chore. Several months down the road, they can have several daily chores, and by the end of the year, you can even add several BIG chores in.
When you add chores slowly it gives you the opportunity to help them and show them the standard you would like the chore to be done at. (And you get to spend some extra time with them!) It takes 21 days of doing something for it to become a habit. By taking a month before you add more responsibility, it helps them and you develop habits of getting those chores done.
Let Them Choose
You may be thinking that this the craziest thing ever when it comes to kids doing their chores but giving them a choice means that the job is more likely to be done. You may just be surprised at what they pick.
Cleaning Loves Company
Set up a certain time of the day when chores should be done. If everyone is cleaning at the same time then it doesn’t make anyone feel like they have to do it all alone.
Use a Reward System
We don’t like to work unless we get rewarded for it and neither do our kids. When offering a reward, make sure it is something they think is a reward, not just something you like. MyJobChart.com offers kids the opportunity to choose their own reward. Points add up and they are able to cash them in for items on Amazon.com. What could be easier?
Make a plan for this year to be different. Start now by showing your kids how much you love them by making them do chores and be more responsible.
January 8th, 2013 - Category: My Job Chart
Since the beginning of the new year, we have had a chance to look back and take note of all that MyJobChart.com has accomplished and look ahead to what is in store. Of course none of what is accomplished could be done without the participation of all of you, the parents and kids that use MyJobChart.com. For instance, did you know that there are currently 287,450 members signed up, over 12.9 million jobs that have been completed, and over 144 million points that have been accumulated on MyJobChart.com. If you ask me, that makes for a cleaner, happier, more productive, and more responsible generation.
Our children, and I say our, because I’m not only the founder but my kids use MyJobChart.com too, are growing up with a stronger sense of what it takes to earn a dollar. They are learning how to obey and the benefits of it. All in all, we are reaping the benefits of chores.
But don’t take my word for it. Janelle, from Kansas says, “I love MyJobChart.com because it helps my kids be more responsible about getting their chores done.” Or Doug, from Ohio says, “My wife was pulling her hair out one day because the house was a mess and the kids wouldn’t help. I found MyJobChart.com online and we started it the next day. Since then, my kids are asking to help and my wife is enjoying our home again.”
You’re experience with MyJobChart.com may be similar to these. Whatever the outcome, I hope it is a good one. We would love it if you could share how MyJobChart.com has helped in your house. And we’d love to hear any suggestions of how we may improve as well.
In fact, it was a parent that asked if we could make MyJobChart.com accessible from her smart phone. Well, you talked and we listened. I’m excited to announce that by the end of this month we will be launching a new iphone/ipad app as well as an android app. Now you can check chores done and receive messages even when you’re not at home.
Speaking of messages, there have been over 211,000 messages sent to kids and over 133,000 messages sent to parents on our clever message board. If you aren’t already using MyJobChart.com, sign up today and you could join in on the millions of chores that are being completed today!
January 3rd, 2013 - Category: General Parenting
With the beginning of a new year comes the beginning of many things. Many people like to reflect on the previous year (or years) and see what has happened and where you are now in your life. Many people make New Year Resolutions. A resolution is a decision to do or not do something in order to accomplish a personal goal or break a habit.
What resolutions have you made? What resolutions have your children made? With the rise of discipline and behavior problems, childhood obesity, and drug abuse among our children the American Academy of Pediatrics has come up with 20 New Year Resolutions that you can encourage your child to make this new year.
I will clean up my toys and put them where they belong.
I will brush my teeth twice a day, and wash my hands after going to the bathroom and before eating.
I won’t tease dogs or other pets – even friendly ones. I will avoid being bitten by keeping my fingers and face away from their mouths.
Kids, 5- to 12-years-old
I will drink reduced-fat milk and water every day, and drink soda and fruit drinks only on special occasions.
I will apply sunscreen before I go outdoors on bright sunny days. I will try to stay in the shade whenever possible and wear a hat and sunglasses, especially when I’m playing sports.
I will try to find a sport (like basketball or soccer) or an activity (like playing tag, jumping rope, dancing or riding my bike) that I like and do it at least three times a week!
I will always wear a helmet when bicycling.
I will wear my seat belt every time I get in a car. I’ll sit in the back seat and use a booster seat until I am tall enough to use a lap/shoulder seat belt.
I’ll be nice to other kids. I’ll be friendly to kids who need friends – like someone who is shy, or is new to my school.
I’ll never give out personal information such as my name, home address, school name or telephone number on the Internet. Also, I’ll never send a picture of myself to someone I chat with on the computer without my parent’s permission.
Kids, 13-years-old and up
I will try to eat two servings of fruit and two servings of vegetables every day, and I will drink sodas only on special occasions.
I will take care of my body through physical activity and nutrition.
I will choose non-violent television shows and video games, and I will spend only one to two hours each day – at the most – on these activities.
I will help out in my community – through volunteering, working with community groups or by joining a group that helps people in need.
When I feel angry or stressed out, I will take a break and find constructive ways to deal with the stress, such as exercising, reading, writing in a journal or discussing my problem with a parent or friend.
When faced with a difficult decision, I will talk about my choices with an adult whom I can trust.
When I notice my friends are struggling or engaging in risky behaviors, I will talk with a trusted adult and attempt to find a way that I can help them.
I will be careful about whom I choose to date, and always treat the other person with respect and without coercion or violence. I will expect the same good behavior in return.
I will resist peer pressure to try tobacco, drugs or alcohol.
I agree not to use a cellphone or text message while driving and to always use a seat belt.
We hope that one of your New Year Resolutions is to have a happier, healthier, more organized home along with financial savvy kids. Join MyJobChart.com today and we can help you stick to your resolution, and see results when you look back next year.