Archive for February, 2013

Discipline vs. Love, 3 Words to Remember

All parents know that discipline is important.  And at the same time, we’ve all seen our children rebel because of our over protectiveness.  I can look back at life, especially as a teenager, and remember how restrictive I thought my parents were.  Now I find myself, imposing the same rules on my children and I can see them push back just like I did.  Is there a balance to be found between correction and love, and if so how do you find it?

Experts say that for every time you correct a child you should show them at least five expressions of love, warmth, and affection to counteract the discipline.  That means that every child needs five times as much love, support, appreciation, and encouragement as strictness, regulation, control, and punishment.

I don’t know about you, but I’d have to say that the show of love in my house is lacking according to that ratio.  How are you doing when it comes to telling your kids that you love them?  Here are three words to remember when it comes to love:


Appreciation:  Tell and show your children how much you appreciate them and the things they do.  Be specific, and look for things that you can do for them to show your appreciation.  Leave a note in their lunchbox or on the bathroom mirror.  Give them a reward in the form of a treat or a special outing.


Approval:  Tell and show your children that you approve and like what they do, and that you are proud of the things they accomplish.  Sometimes this may be difficult if your child is going through a difficult stage.  Try and find something, even if it is small, and mention that thing several times a day until you can find more things to show your approval of.


Affirmation:  Tell and show your children that you love them no matter what they do or don’t do.  Affirm to them that they are of enormous worth and value to you.  Let them know that no matter what choices they make, that your love is constant.  Let them count on that.


These three ways of showing love may seem similar, and in some ways they are.  But if you seek to separate the three and give your children appreciation, approval, and affirmation, they will be sure of your love.  And the plus is, they will likely respond better when you do have to discipline them.


All New Apps!

Fastest Growing Kids Chore Site, My Job Chart,
Launches Mobile Apps


The 311,000 Current Members, plus the 500+ Members Who Join Daily,
Can Now Track what they Save, Share and Spend On the Go


Scottsdale, Ariz. – Feb 25, 2013 – Answering the demand from its more than 311,000 users, My Job Chart now offers Apple and Android mobile apps, allowing parents and kids the opportunity to save, share and spend from anywhere. Mobile access to gives parents the opportunity to teach their kids financial responsibility and personal accountability throughout the day. The fastest growing online chore chart created the free apps for Apple iPhones, iPads and Android phones and tablets. A new mobile site is also available at With more than 500 new members joining daily, these apps allow this growing community to personalize chores, set up rewards and cash in points anytime, anywhere.

“Going mobile for My Job Chart makes perfect sense because users can access chore charts and rewards on the fly instead of having to wait until they get back to their computer,” said Gregg Murset, father of six and CEO and founder of My Job Chart. “Let’s face it, most family activities happen when we’re away from our desks. We really think our members will enjoy the ease and convenience of the new apps.”

Murset started My Job Chart in February 2010 as a solution for his family. In January 2011, a new site, with the capacity to help millions of users, launched with 50,000 members. Now, two years later, the member base has grown 500%, adding a quarter of a million people in less than 24 months.

“We’ve tackled one thing at a time to make sure users have a seamless and enjoyable experience when they use My Job Chart,” said Trevyn Meyer, Lead Software Engineer for My Job Chart. “With hundreds of members joining daily, we have been fielding a rising number of requests for mobility; these apps deliver freedom and usability, while still offering all the features of the traditional site.”

My Job Chart gives parents and their children a free way to personalize a chores and reward system. Since its inception, kids have completed more than 13.6 million jobs, earning 151 million points, which equals an earning power of $1.51 million.

As kids complete chores, My Job Chart keeps track of their earned points that they can save, share or spend. The site allows parents to set up bank accounts to teach the importance of saving; enables kids to share by donating to one of many charitable organizations, such as Heifer International and Operation Smile; and offers access to an integrated store where parents can purchase reward items or help kids learn responsible spending. The site doesn’t require financial incentives and parents can also create free rewards, such as a day at the park, a favorite meal or a family bike ride.

To download the app, search for My Job Chart in the app store on your mobile device or go to

About My Job Chart

My Job Chart, based in Scottsdale, Arizona, is a free, easy to use, online and mobile chore chart and reward system designed to teach, organize and motivate kids to save, share and spend responsibly. After successfully raising two rounds of seed funding in 2010, which exceeded benchmarks, My Job Chart launched its new site in January 2011. Propelled by a third round of funding in 2012 the site has grown 500% in two years, adding nearly a quarter of a million members in less than 24 months. For more information on My Job Chart, visit



Evolution of the Apps

Helping Your Tired Kids Wake-Up

Does your child seem to be continually tired?  If so there may be a physical or psychological explanation for their tiredness, but maybe it’s just because they don’t have anything to wake-up for.  Maybe they don’t have any dreams or goals to work toward or achieve.  Maybe they are just going through the motions of life, with nothing to enjoy.  They may not like who they are anymore.

When I was younger, I was in a graduate school program that I hated, but I didn’t feel that I had any other direction to go.  After grudgingly working my way through several months, I began to have difficulty getting up in the morning – even when I’d gone to bed early the night before.  Often I’d sleep until one o’clock in the afternoon, roll out of bed, and drag myself to class at the last minute.  I began over eating and my dress became sloppy as well.  I began to experience chronic tiredness

Interestingly enough, when the program was over, a surge of energy began pouring back into my life.  I enjoyed getting up in the morning again and I looked forward to my day.  I was able to fulfill my responsibilities.  I was excited about life again.

Maybe like me, your child is suffering from chronic tiredness because of a lack of dreams.  Not because of anything physical, maybe it’s just because their life is misaligned or mismanaged.  And their lack of dreams is leaving them nothing to get fired up about.

Discuss with your child the real source of their tiredness: Is it because they have no dreams to pursue?  If so, give them something to live for, something to look forward to, something to wake-up about.

  • Consider enrolling them in a sport or a club.
  • Help them find a friend that they can share special moments with.
  • Encourage them to branch out and try new things.
  • Give them some responsibility.

If your child always seems to be tired, consider helping them find a dream to wake-up for!

Deciding What to Pay for Chores


You know that kids are more likely to do their chores, do them better, and do them faster if they get a reward at the end.  But how do you figure out what dollar amount to attach to each chore?  Everyone has specific situations, but here’s an idea for a place to start.

For some reason, it is easier as adults to figure out how much a person should get paid per hour, and harder to figure out how much you should pay someone to clean out the sink.  So, lets figure out how much your child should get paid per hour.  Yep an hour.  That doesn’t mean they will be working for an hour.  But if they were, how much would you pay them for an hours worth of work?

This number is usually most dependant on their age.  For example,  you may give your 12 year old $6 per hour, and only give $3 per hour to your 6 year old.  But other things may come into play here, like how mature they are, or how much you make an hour.

Now, take their hourly wage and divide it by sixty to see how much your child should make per minute.  So, If you are paying your 12 year old $6 per hour, that would be 10 cents for each minute of work.  This is their minute wage.

Next, we are going to start figuring out how much time it takes to do each chore.  Watch your children do their chores for a week or two and keep track of how long it takes to do certain tasks, down to the minute.

Lastly, multiply the number of minutes it takes for them to finish a job, by their minute wage, and you have your job pay rate.

So, if I’m paying my 12 year old $6 per hour, or 10 cents per minute, and it takes him 3 minutes to clean a window, he would get 30 cents to clean the window.  Or if it takes him 5 minutes to clean the sliding glass door, that would be worth 50 cents, and so forth.

Be sure to update your “hourly” rate as their ages increase and check in on your job pay rates every now and then to make sure that they are fair.  As your children get older they will be able to finish their chores faster so, your time table and job pay rates need to be adjusted accordingly. makes it easy to reward your children for doing their chores.  And never fear if you set up a chore with a reward that is way too easy or just the opposite, never going to get done.  With just a click of a button, you can change the reward that each job is worth and keep things fair and on track.

Leave a comment and let us know how you decide what to pay for chores.



Tips On Teaching Your Kids to Be Nice


If you could have one wish what would it be?  Toward the top of the list I’m sure we could find world peace.  A grand idea, but it all has to start somewhere.  How about in our homes?

Sometimes we may think that our efforts of teaching our children to be nice are futile, but the other day my daughter’s teacher pulled me aside and told me a story that brought me hope.

The teacher had brought signs for the kids to hold that were attached to popsicle sticks.  Problem was, she happened to be 1 short, so everyone was able to hold one, except for the last little girl.  The teacher told this girl that she would be able to help by holding up a different picture, but this little girl was upset that she didn’t get one with a popsicle stick.  The teacher had greatly underestimated the worth of that popsicle stick to a 5 year old girl.  The girl started crying as the teacher tried to calm her.  Then my daughter stepped forward and offered the girl her sign on a stick. How pleased I was that she would do such a nice thing.

Now don’t get me wrong.  That same evening she was antagonizing her little sister by taking her favorite bear away from her.  But having her teacher comment on the difference my daughter had made to her day seemed to dampen my reaction to the later offense.

Teaching our children to be nice is something that takes time and patience.  The biggest thing for them to realize is that kindness has value.  It’s easy to think that the world isn’t fair, or they are being cheated out of something better by being nice, but in reality, everyone benefits when someone is nice.  Here are some ideas to help your children be nicer.


Be nice to your kids.

Treat your children with respect and encourage them to do the same.  There should still be discipline, but use words instead of force.


Pay attention to your kids.

Spend quality time with them.  Let them know that you love them.  A person is more likely to be nice if they feel good about themselves.


Model good behavior.

Let your children see you being nice.  Volunteer, help your neighbors, and treat others with dignity and respect.


Use kind language.

Don’t treat someone nicely and then come home and talk bad behind their back.  Everyone has a different idea of “good” words and “bad” words.  I would suggest that any words that are not nice, are also “bad” words.


Reinforce good behavior.

When you see your child being nice, make a big deal out of it.  Sometimes you may have to look long and hard to find something, but when you do, praise them heavily for it, multiple times.


Give your children chores.

There was a study from the University of Minnesota that showed children that did housework had better feelings of responsibility and self worth in their later years.  Who would have guessed that chores could make your children nicer? couldn’t prove it till now, but we’ve known it all along.


Read about being kind.

We all know the importance of reading to our children.  Add some books about kindness to your reading schedule and then discuss them.


Encourage them to make friends.

When you have a friend you tend to do things for them out of kindness.  You also tend to sacrifice more for them than a stranger.


Get a pet.

A pet can make everyone happy. Except for maybe cleaning up after it, and then it will reinforce how to care for something that doesn’t always reciprocate it.