Does being on time seem impossible, no matter how important the event? Are you always running out the door in a frenzy? Have you ever wished you could break the pattern?
Well, don’t be discouraged. Being late is a habit that you can break overnight. But, only if it’s important to you.
Now, don’t get me wrong. We’re not talking about the occasional late because of an accident on the freeway. We’re talking about the person that gets told that lunch is at 11:30 when it’s really at noon, because everyone knows that you always show up late.
If this sounds familiar, if being punctual isn’t one of your priorities, let’s look at why, maybe, it should be.
First, lets look at the consequences of being late.
Being late is stressful. It leads to racing, worried, and anxious feelings.
Being late is embarrassing. The first few minutes after arriving anywhere is spent apologizing.
Being repeatedly late creates a negative reputation. People feel that they cant trust you or rely on you.
Being late impacts relationships. The people around you, that have to constantly make-up for your lost time, begin to resent you.
Being late affects your self-esteem. It makes you feel like you have not control over a situation that you should have control over.
Are you motivated to make a change yet? If not, Dr. Phil has some words that may make you think twice about being late next time. He says to get real about your tardiness. If you are always late, but tell yourself that you try to be on time, get real. Be honest with yourself. Start by admitting that you really aren’t trying as hard as you could.
Dr. Phil also puts a strong spin on tardiness. He claims that if you are always late or procrastinate, it is a way of manipulating and controlling a situation at the expense of others. He calls it an arrogant behavior.
You may disagree, but he claims that when you are late, you are making everything about you and you are unfairly imposing your time schedule on others and assuming that others should wait on you.
Take what you will from Dr. Phil’s profound ideas on being late. I don’t consider myself a “late” person. In general I tend to be early. But, after hearing his ideas on tardiness, I have to say that I’m planning on putting more time into being prepared so I’m not late next time.
Check back next week for some tips on how to be on time and some characteristics of “on time” people. I think you’ll be enlightened.