How many times have you looked around your messy house, only to see your kids watching TV, so you thrown up your hands in frustration and decide to have a family meeting? How many times have you come away from the meeting with a desire to make a change but it only lasts for about 3 days, and then everyone is back into their old routines again?
It is time to succeed! It is time to win the Battle of the Chores! Make this the year where everyone’s ideas about chores are changed.
Many times it’s the parents that need to change their thinking about chores too. Maybe you resent your parents for making you do chores. Maybe you want your kids to have a better childhood than you did. Maybe you feel guilty for making one child clean up after another child. Whatever is holding you back, realize that you are hurting your child more than you are helping them by letting them get out of their chores.
Just like we send our children off to school to prepare them for a job when they are adults, having them help out around the house now, prepares them to maintain a home when they are adults. Chores are just another life skill. You are showing them more love by helping them be more responsible around the house.
It’s always easier and faster to just do the job yourself, but remember the short term goal is to get the house clean, the long term goal is to teach your child how to work and be responsible. Start young and you will have less arguing from them as they grow older.
If it’s too late and bad habits are already formed, take baby steps. Plan on taking the next year to slowly add more chores and responsibility. Start this month with having them help with the dinner dishes. Next month add a bigger Saturday chore. Several months down the road, they can have several daily chores, and by the end of the year, you can even add several BIG chores in.
When you add chores slowly it gives you the opportunity to help them and show them the standard you would like the chore to be done at. (And you get to spend some extra time with them!) It takes 21 days of doing something for it to become a habit. By taking a month before you add more responsibility, it helps them and you develop habits of getting those chores done.
Let Them Choose
You may be thinking that this the craziest thing ever when it comes to kids doing their chores but giving them a choice means that the job is more likely to be done. You may just be surprised at what they pick.
Cleaning Loves Company
Set up a certain time of the day when chores should be done. If everyone is cleaning at the same time then it doesn’t make anyone feel like they have to do it all alone.
Use a Reward System
We don’t like to work unless we get rewarded for it and neither do our kids. When offering a reward, make sure it is something they think is a reward, not just something you like. MyJobChart.com offers kids the opportunity to choose their own reward. Points add up and they are able to cash them in for items on Amazon.com. What could be easier?
Make a plan for this year to be different. Start now by showing your kids how much you love them by making them do chores and be more responsible.