September 5th, 2014 - Category: Uncategorized
We all want to be better and do better but how many of us actually take the time to work on ourselves to become better? With September being Self-Improvement month, I suggest we all take some time to do just that, work on ourselves.
Find the time. If you can’t seem to find the time, I propose that you schedule it in, just like that doctor appointment on the calendar next week. Or maybe wake-up 30 minutes earlier, or maybe “your” time may be just before bed when the house is quiet. The most important thing is to be committed to make time for you and your personal self-improvement this month.
Journal to decide. Writing in a journal can help you explore your thoughts and beliefs and can help you understand what makes you “tick”. Writing in a journal can also help you reflect and gain insight to what improvements you may decide on.
Set goals. Make several self-improvement goals. If you are like me, then you may have quite a few areas of your life that you would like to improve on, but be patient and just pick one or two to work on at a time. Be crystal clear in what your improvement will look and feel like. What will you be doing differently, and what will you be saying and thinking with this change?
Get some help. Read a book or talk to a professional about what you would like to improve upon. Scour the internet to find tips and tricks to help you with your goals
Help yourself. Create a visual of each of your goals and put them someplace that you will see often to remind you of your end goal. This will also help keep you focused. Every time you walk by your reminder, affirm to yourself the positive outcomes that will accompany your hard work.
Celebrate. If your goal can be attained within the month, be sure to celebrate when it’s accomplished. If it is something that will take longer to accomplish, be sure to reward yourself along the way so that you stay motivated.
And when the month is over, take a look back and see how much better you feel as the new and improved you!
A strong work ethic – one that includes a positive and productive approach to work – is favored at home, at school, and in the work force.
Work ethic doesn’t just consist of the ability to work. It is comprised of a person’s attitude, feelings, and beliefs about work. When a person has a good work ethic they understand the benefits and importance of work and it’s ability to strengthen their character for the better.
Whether you have a good or a bad work ethic can determine how you set goals, how reliable you are, and how well you cooperate and communicate with others. It can also determine the effort, timeliness, dedication, honesty, and determination you put into completing a task. Your leadership and volunteerism choices are also impacted by your work ethic.
We may be able to bribe or threaten our children into working. But is that accomplishing what we want it to?
Teaching our children to not only work but to have a positive attitude about work is the key. Here are some tips on how to create a good work ethic in your child.
Let them contribute with chores.
Even young children can do chores. Parents shouldn’t feel they are burdening kids or robbing them of playtime. Children want to contribute and do things that make them feel valuable. Chores encourage the idea that service is expected in the family. If we don’t invite them to help, we miss an opportunity to teach and they miss an opportunity to learn.
Make Work Positive
If parents can tell or show kids how work contributes to the family’s well-being, children will be more positive about chores. Giving them choices can also help their attitude but don’t let them opt out. Incentives can also make work more fun.
Let Them Fail
It’s the effort that counts. Don’t expect kids to always do their tasks well but resist the urge to step in and take over. If the child fails to water the plant, let it wilt or die. If teenagers have trouble on a job, or even get fired because they fail to show up on time or do the job correctly, don’t make excuses for them. Let them learn that their actions, or inactions, have consequences. Talk about what happened and ask them what they can do to keep from repeating their mistake. Don’t rub it in, but don’t let them shrug off what happened either.
Explain the “Why” of Work
As children get older, it’s important for parents to discuss the meaning and purpose of work. Now is the time to make it clear that jobs are not done for drudgery’s sake but to create value, make products, or serve people or even a greater good. A young person needs to learn that there is a purpose to work. That doing a job well makes you a better person and enhances character and self-esteem. One way parents can start this discussion with their kids is by sharing their own work experiences – good and bad – and talk about the lessons they’ve learned and how they were shaped by those experiences.
In real life, work isn’t always fun. Sometimes the boss isn’t fair, customers are rude, and hours seem to drag by. Expect teens to complain about their jobs. Let them vent. In fact, encourage it. After all, adults sometimes gripe about their jobs too. Just be ready to offer encouragement afterwards.
Model Good Work Ethic
Kids learn good work habits when their parents have good work habits. You are the one that can show them that work is important and that it’s part of a balanced life. Resolve yourself that work is exactly what the name implies – work. There are things in life that aren’t going to be fun to do, but they still have to be done. As an adult we can still have a positive attitude about it.
It is reported by the U.S. Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) around 1 in 68 American children are on the autism spectrum.
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) affects over 2 million individuals in the U.S. and tens of millions worldwide. Studies also show that ASD is four to five times more common among boys than girls. An estimated 1 out of 42 boys and 1 in 189 girls are diagnosed with autism in the United States.
Autism Speaks, the newest charity that can be found at MyJobChart.com, is in the forefront when it comes to increasing autism awareness and funding research.
ASD and autism are both general terms for a group of complex disorders of brain development. These disorders are characterized, in varying degrees, by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and repetitive behaviors.
Each individual with autism is unique. Many of those on the autism spectrum have exceptional abilities in visual skills, music and academic skills. About 40 percent have average to above average intellectual abilities. Indeed, many persons on the spectrum take deserved pride in their distinctive abilities and “atypical” ways of viewing the world.
Others with autism have significant disability and are unable to live independently. About 25 percent of individuals with ASD are nonverbal but can learn to communicate using other means.
Autism Speaks’ mission is to improve the lives of all those on the autism spectrum. For some, this means the development and delivery of more effective treatments that can address significant challenges in communication and physical health. For others, it means increasing acceptance, respect and support.
Some of the many resources you can find at Autismspeaks.org:
Apps that have been found helpful
Local and national events
Up to date advocacy news
Many online and other resources
The latest research and initiatives
New and ongoing clinical programs
Useful tool kits
Family services galore
And even an online screening for your child.
Research shows that early diagnosis and intervention with proven behavioral therapies can improve outcomes. Autism Speaks is making sure that families develop and use critical advocacy skills in order to achieve this.
Sign up to MyJobChart.com today and share with Autismspeaks.org or make a donation today .
December 18th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
The holiday season can be the most wonderful time of the year, but with shopping, wrapping, holiday card writing, cookie baking, get-together’s, school concerts, tree trimming, neighbor caroling, dinner preparations, light hanging, etc., etc., etc…it can also be the most stressful time of the year.
So, what are we to do about it?
Susan Madsen, a therapist at Desert Therapies in Albuquerque, New Mexico, has some ideas that can help transform your stress into joy – comparable to eating your favorite dessert:) My favorite dessert, brownies a-la-mode.
First, Susan suggests to make a list and prioritize. Whittle down that list by accomplishing 1 task at a time. And then check it off. Yep. Actually check it off. Why? Because it feels good to make that mark and see your list dwindling before your eyes.
Second, learn to say no. Just because you get invited to 15 different events doesn’t mean you have to attend every one of them. If saying no doesn’t come easy, practice in front of the mirror. And for those things that you just can’t say no to, maybe you can still say yes, but fulfill them on a smaller scale.
Another great mood lifter is to give back. And what a great time of the year to do that. Noticing and helping others in need can always make you feel more blessed.
Speaking of blessings… count yours! If you start to get overwhelmed and nothing seems to be going your way, make a list in your head of everything wonderful in your life. It helps keep perspective and get over the negative hump.
And last but not least, laugh. If a smile is hard to come by, try to remember a time in the past that just made you crack-up. Call up an old friend and reminisce with them about it and then you’ll both be able to ease some stress.
So, do fun things with fun people, relax a little and enjoy the season!
June 27th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
My daughter has always believed in the tooth fairy. I have always let her. The magic, excitement and fantasy of having a personal-fairy who leaves gifts has always been an irresistible draw, far surpassing the need to insert a sense of reality into her mind. And then, one day, the tables turned on me when I had my own personal fairy visit.
I still remember when, one morning, my daughter woke me from sleep with great excitement. “The fairy has left you an amazing present,” she whispered. “See what the tooth fairy left you!” I reached under the pillow and found a one dollar note, torn down the middle in exactly half. “Look! The fairy left half a dollar for you, and the other half is under daddy’s pillow.”
I was speechless. I found myself in a dilemma! On the one had she was inviting me to share in the same world of fantasy and magic that I had encouraged her to believe in. Yet, on the other hand, the voice within me wanted to shout, “money doesn’t grow on trees!”
I realized that this was a moment in which how I responded could make or break my child’s spirit. Thankfully, better sense prevailed and I chose to shelve the lesson and tell her how proud I was of that wonderful tooth fairy was so generous to share her dollar with us. My daughter’s eyes responded with a sparkle bright enough the illumine the room.
I tell this story to demonstrate how children, especially our young ones, live entirely from the heart. They are all about feelings. Unlike parents, children do not live in the mental world of intellectualization, organization, planning, or judgment. They just are. Pure being.
As parents who live in the practical world of endless doing – schedules, chores, lists and calendars – we are often at odds with our children. Teaching them to live in the world of adult rules, protocol and time tables is a challenge all of us face. A parent once shared exasperatedly, “a walk in the park takes over an hour because my daughter likes to stop and smell every flower! We are always late for school!” This exasperation is true for many parents caught in the maelstrom of getting their kids to accomplish certain goals while yet, attempting to hold onto a certain childlike sense of exploration and wonder.
Our children live in a world of endless imagination and fantasy. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t allow for their enviable capacity to dream, play and wander.
So how do we bridge this gap? How do we allow our children to hold onto their heart and magical worlds but still move to a practical beat? How do we balance the being versus the doing? Dancing this fine line between the mundane and the magical is at the heart of conscious parenting.
Young children who have not yet developed the capacity for internal regulation need our help. They need encouragement and positive reinforcement. During these years, it is the parent’s job to introduce as much fun, spontaneity, creativity and magic into the practical tasks of brushing teeth, washing faces, making beds, and doing their ABC’s. The more attuned the parent is with their child’s inner fantasies, the more successful will they be in helping their young children create a bridge between their worlds and ours.
As children grow older, they can learn to schedule their own time, mastering the valuable skills of time management and efficiency. Parents can find unique ways to reward them for these growing capacities, always remembering that the best rewards are those that are created and worked towards by the child themselves.
Children learn best when they see the fruits of their labor on their own accord. Experience is the best teacher. It is our job as their parents to provide them as many opportunities to experience self-sufficiency and self-worth. When we allow them chances to contribute toward the household in a positive manner, this immediately helps raise their sense of self, and belonging in the home. Children long to succeed; it is the onus of us parents to allow them safe avenues to witness their accomplishments. Children who feel purposeful and self-directed mature into resilient, competent and empowered adults.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary is a clinical psychologist who received her doctorate from Columbia University. As she was exposed to Eastern teachings at an early age, her specialty is in the integration of this Eastern philosophy and Western psychology. It is this blend of East and West that allows her to reach a global audience, and establishes her as one of a kind in the eld of mindfulness psychology. Dr. Shefali is the author of the award-winning Book, The Conscious Parent.
Prefaced by the Dalai Lama, this book revolutionizes the parenting paradigm.
June 27th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
Now, over 16,000,000 (yeah, you read that right… million) chores have been completed by kids using our system. Holy cow, that’s a lot of work getting done by young people!
Jennifer a Mom from Semi Valley, CA had this to say, “This program has been wonderful! My husband heard Radio Host Bill Handel talking about it and we signed up right away. Since then, I havent had to nag my two girls about doing their daily jobs. I love it!”
Teaching kids work ethic is one of our prime tenants and we are glad that so many people are using our free online tool to help teach this valuable life skill to their kids.
Here are a couple of tips when assigning chores to your kids:
1. Make them age appropriate. Consider the age of your child and then assign a job around the house that makes sense for them to accomplish. Of course, as they get older change it up so that they are constantly learning new skills and further developing their work ethic.
2. Be consistent. Just because it’s summertime now make sure you keep things structured. If your kids get out of the routine of helping and doing their chores it will make it much harder to get back in the swing of things when school starts again.
Keep up the good work!
February 25th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
Fastest Growing Kids Chore Site, My Job Chart,
Launches Mobile Apps
The 311,000 Current Members, plus the 500+ Members Who Join Daily,
Can Now Track what they Save, Share and Spend On the Go
Scottsdale, Ariz. – Feb 25, 2013 – Answering the demand from its more than 311,000 users, My Job Chart now offers Apple and Android mobile apps, allowing parents and kids the opportunity to save, share and spend from anywhere. Mobile access to MyJobChart.com gives parents the opportunity to teach their kids financial responsibility and personal accountability throughout the day. The fastest growing online chore chart created the free apps for Apple iPhones, iPads and Android phones and tablets. A new mobile site is also available at m.myjobchart.com. With more than 500 new members joining daily, these apps allow this growing community to personalize chores, set up rewards and cash in points anytime, anywhere.
“Going mobile for My Job Chart makes perfect sense because users can access chore charts and rewards on the fly instead of having to wait until they get back to their computer,” said Gregg Murset, father of six and CEO and founder of My Job Chart. “Let’s face it, most family activities happen when we’re away from our desks. We really think our members will enjoy the ease and convenience of the new apps.”
Murset started My Job Chart in February 2010 as a solution for his family. In January 2011, a new site, with the capacity to help millions of users, launched with 50,000 members. Now, two years later, the member base has grown 500%, adding a quarter of a million people in less than 24 months.
“We’ve tackled one thing at a time to make sure users have a seamless and enjoyable experience when they use My Job Chart,” said Trevyn Meyer, Lead Software Engineer for My Job Chart. “With hundreds of members joining daily, we have been fielding a rising number of requests for mobility; these apps deliver freedom and usability, while still offering all the features of the traditional site.”
My Job Chart gives parents and their children a free way to personalize a chores and reward system. Since its inception, kids have completed more than 13.6 million jobs, earning 151 million points, which equals an earning power of $1.51 million.
As kids complete chores, My Job Chart keeps track of their earned points that they can save, share or spend. The site allows parents to set up bank accounts to teach the importance of saving; enables kids to share by donating to one of many charitable organizations, such as Heifer International and Operation Smile; and offers access to an integrated Amazon.com store where parents can purchase reward items or help kids learn responsible spending. The site doesn’t require financial incentives and parents can also create free rewards, such as a day at the park, a favorite meal or a family bike ride.
To download the app, search for My Job Chart in the app store on your mobile device or go to www.myjobchart.com/mobile_apps.
About My Job Chart
My Job Chart, based in Scottsdale, Arizona, is a free, easy to use, online and mobile chore chart and reward system designed to teach, organize and motivate kids to save, share and spend responsibly. After successfully raising two rounds of seed funding in 2010, which exceeded benchmarks, My Job Chart launched its new site in January 2011. Propelled by a third round of funding in 2012 the site has grown 500% in two years, adding nearly a quarter of a million members in less than 24 months. For more information on My Job Chart, visit www.myjobchart.com.
January 29th, 2013 - Category: Uncategorized
I recently read the book entitled, “The Demise of Guys” and was totally shocked at the statistics reinforcing what I instinctively already knew in my head. As the author put it, “guys are flaming out”. Crashing and burning. Biting the dust.
Well, I for one, am not letting my guys ages 15, 10, 8 and almost 6 “flame out”. Nope… over my dead body is that going to happen.
These guys are growing up in a world that would have no problem if they just completely wasted all the potential they have wrapped up inside of them. Just chewed them up and spit them out. These guys need a man that has been down the road a little further than they have been, to help lead the way and educate them about all the pitfalls out there. That is what a real man does right?
So why are guys going down in flames? Well, there are a number of contributing factors but the two biggest reasons fit into the same category: technology. Specifically, video games and online pornography.
The average young person will spend 10,000 hours gaming by age 21. What? With so many boys running around now with a gaming device in their front pocket, I’m not really that surprised. Every time there is a spare minute, out comes the video game and the time wasting begins. The author put this in context when he stated that it takes the average college student only half that time – 4,800 hours – to earn a bachelor’s degree. Let’s see here… a college degree or hours of mind numbing gaming? Unfortunately, many guys are choosing the latter to their own demise. I’m not bashing the occasional virtual adventure on a winter day, but 10,000 hours? Come on.
The pornography business is picking up speed at a staggering rate and destroying guys left and right as it barrels down the tracks. One in three boys is now considered a “heavy” porn user, viewing nearly two hours of porn every week. Really? Seriously? Worldwide, pornography is almost a 100 billion dollar industry. This filth is peddled to anyone that will take a look, with the hope that they will take another look and yet another until they are stuck in an addictive cycle that destroys their ability to have normal interactions with others, especially those of the opposite sex.
Well, as disheartening as these statistics may be… take courage, I have a few simple solutions to consider:
First, boys need more to do. They need to be given more responsibility earlier on in life. How about some jobs around the house for heavens sake? It’s hard to game or get in trouble on the internet while you have a lawn mower or a paintbrush in your hand! Have them get off the couch or come out of their room, where they are more than likely gaming in seclusion, and do something productive. They might cuss you under their breath when they are younger but I believe they will praise your name later in life. Shoot, maybe even sincerely thank you face to face! Wouldn’t that be nice? The men that have my respect are real men that know how to work hard.
Secondly, boys need some goals. A clear vision of what they could or should be doing with their time. If they aren’t gaming so much or looking at porn, that leaves a lot of time to do something worthwhile. So sit down with your son, nephew, friend, whoever, and help open their eyes to the many other meaningful things that they could be doing with their time. Read good books, learn how to play an instrument or take on a new language. Get interested in a hobby like hunting or fishing or enroll them in some other organized sport. Maybe it’s weight lifting or running or mountain biking. Help them set some financial goals and teach them how to make good financial decisions. Help them understand that good things come to those that wait. Maybe it’s saving up for the car they might be dreaming of when they get into High School. As they set some goals and then make the effort to achieve those goals they will have an increased sense of self worth. Not some lame, fake, and fleeting self worth that comes from achieving another level on a video game or being momentarily aroused by yet another pornographic image.
You know what’s going to happen if we can keep them out of this technology trap? They are going to do better in school, have better social skills, be more self-motivated, learn how to work and make good money decisions. All in all, they are going to be more pleasant to be around. Bonus!
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying to go on complete and total technology lock down. Don’t freak out and pile up the iPhones and start a bon-fire or anything. These little gadgets are totally amazing if used for the right purposes. We just need to make sure that these guys that we are raising are given some guidance so they aren’t the ones that get run over by this technological train barreling down the tracks.
The demise of guys? Well, for my 4 guys it’s going to have to be over my dead body.
Gregg Murset is the Founder of MyJobChart.
Check out this amazing info graphic! Use it to teach your kids about how important this is!